Talking It Out Is A Good Thing

As soon as Kerry could talk I told her that we could talk about anything and I meant anything. I always told her that no subject was off limits. Through the years we talked about all kinds of things usually over breakfast. Sex, drugs, age, college, dating, clarinet, soccer, teacher, friends, family......you name it and we talked about it.

Kerry called me on Saturday and told me that she wanted to talk to me. It turned out that she realized that she had hurt my feelings the other day when she decided to go to Cincinnati. She had been thinking about it and came up with a way that she could spend time with her boyfriend and come home to see us too. I was thrilled to hear this.

We had a wonderful conversation about everything and I feel much better about things. Kerry assured me that she was not going to run off and get married. Now, there's some good news. :) She said that she doesn't plan on getting married until after med school. More good news. She also said that she is just having fun dating. Both she and Sean(present boyfriend) are thinking more about their working futures than their romantic futures. Oh yeah, I am feeling good about this. She also apologized to me for doing what seemed to be picking Sean over me. Jewish mom guilt works. :) :)

This conversation made me realize how lucky I really am. Most kids Kerry's age are so self absorbed that they don't even consider whether or not they hurt Mom's feelings. They don't bother to make time for family and just go along their merry way partying and lying. Kerry is not a liar and is very good about taking my feelings into consideration.

Yes, I was feeling sorry for myself the other day when I felt that I was being taken advantage of. Like Angie had said, I felt as if I had been fired from being Kerry's Mom. I told her how I felt and she just broke out laughing. She told me that I will never be fired and I need to understand that this is a job I have taken on for life. OMG!!! I am so glad to have that lifetime job. I don't ever want to collect unemployment. Me with my lifetime job. Pretty nice workif you can get it!